Yesterday I had a perfect day that ended badly and it was all my fault.
I woke up at 05:00 and went out for a run, took a shower and then I wrote a little bit in my journal, including a plan for what I wanted to accomplish during the day. Then I drove to work and had a fun and good day at work. The only downside was that I was not able to finish a task of putting a plan into Microsoft Project, a plan that I made with the team in a planning workshop. I thought this was all ok, I would just finish it in the evening,, I knew I had approximately 2 hours available there.
Well it is not always that easy to get 2 hours to focus on finishing something at home when you have 4 kids and the oldest one is only 9 years old. There were too many things to finish before I could do my work, I finished painting a wall at home, I helped to prepare the dinner and cleaned after it, and then the problems started,,, putting the kids to sleep. This dragged out to 1,5 hour, one after each other they were all set on to ruin my plan, which meant that I only had 30 minutes to work before I went to sleep. I lost my temper and became very angry,, everything and everyone was conspiring to ruin my plans. When the kids were finally asleep, I felt horrible for having yelled at them and saw how short sighted and unfair I had been.
What I forgot was how productive the day had been, how low priority this task really had,, I could just as easily do it the next day, and that I had really not spent enough time with my kids this day. For the future I want to become better at remembering that I can not finish everything always on the schedule that I put for myself, it is OK to reschedule once in awhile. Another important lesson is to remember my priorities,,, yes the work is important, but it comes second after my family.
Don’t become too stuck and inflexible in the plans of improvements.