Yesterday I had a perfect day that ended badly and it was all my fault.
I woke up at 05:00 and went out for a run, took a shower and then I wrote a little bit in my journal, including a plan for what I wanted to accomplish during the day. Then I drove to work and had a fun and good day at work. The only downside was that I was not able to finish a task of putting a plan into Microsoft Project, a plan that I made with the team in a planning workshop. I thought this was all ok, I would just finish it in the evening,, I knew I had approximately 2 hours available there.
Well it is not always that easy to get 2 hours to focus on finishing something at home when you have 4 kids and the oldest one is only 9 years old. There were too many things to finish before I could do my work, I finished painting a wall at home, I helped to prepare the dinner and cleaned after it, and then the problems started,,, putting the kids to sleep. This dragged out to 1,5 hour, one after each other they were all set on to ruin my plan, which meant that I only had 30 minutes to work before I went to sleep. I lost my temper and became very angry,, everything and everyone was conspiring to ruin my plans. When the kids were finally asleep, I felt horrible for having yelled at them and saw how short sighted and unfair I had been.
What I forgot was how productive the day had been, how low priority this task really had,, I could just as easily do it the next day, and that I had really not spent enough time with my kids this day. For the future I want to become better at remembering that I can not finish everything always on the schedule that I put for myself, it is OK to reschedule once in awhile. Another important lesson is to remember my priorities,,, yes the work is important, but it comes second after my family.
Don’t become too stuck and inflexible in the plans of improvements.
I came across an interesting internal study made by Google in 2008, the study was set out to prove that Project Managers do not matter. The results concluded that Project Managers are necessary, but only if they are good Project Managers. But what makes a good Project manager according to Google, and do I meet the requirements?
Here are the eight requirements for a successful Project Manager (and my own rating of myself on a scale 1-5):
- Be a good coach, 2
- Empower the team and do not micromanage, 3
- Express interest/concern for the team’s members success and wellbeing, 4
- Be Productive and result oriented, 4
- Be a good communicator, 3
- Help with career development, 1
- Have a vision, 4
- Use your technical skills to advise, 3
Wow,, that hurt. I can be too honest with myself. The positive thing is that I have many things to work on improving. During the next two weeks I am going to explore these topics more, and write about how to improve them.
I have never done a New Year’s resolution. I know the statistics of how many fail.
I am still not making a New Years resolution, I am rebooting, the great things that I have been evolving over 2016 are going to be instilled as habits.
On a side note. One great quote I came across somewhere:
“No, I do not make New Year’s resolutions, I have a plan for my life”.
I wish this was true for myself, my wife and our growing family, and I plan to make it so 🙂
The Christmas vacation has been the best recharge and reboot time I ever had. Over the vacations I have been reading Simon Sinek´s, “Leaders Eat Last” and Seth Godin´s Linchpin. I can not recommend these books highly enough, they have given new perspectives and insights on what I have been doing, why some of the things I am doing work so good, and why other aspects have not been as great. During the vacation I also saw many videos on youtube featuring John Maxwell and from Robin Sharma.
This morning I woke op at 05:00 and went straight out for a short run and a shower. The clock is 06:00 here in Denmark as I am writing this. I almost can’t wait to get to work, to kill the procrastination, do the basic already charted tasks to good enough level, and then go on to focus on making some art, emotional labor and chart new maps.
Happy New year.